For if his motive in fulfilling their wishes is one of those ulterior motives mentioned above, he will not obtain what he wants from them in this world. he will labor in vain and will lose his reward in the world to come  If however, he acts solely out of service to GD  GD will help them the beneficiary to repay him in this world will put this praises into their mouth, and will increase his strature in ther eyes, and they will attain great reward in the World to come.  

 If one who trusts in GD has a wife and relatives, friends are enemies; he should rely on GD to save him from being overburdened by them and endeavor to meet his duties toward them to fulfill their wishes and to be wholehearted with them.  He should avoid causing them any harm and promote their interests. He should be their steadfast supporter in all their concerns and advise them of what is advantageous to them in religious and secular matters. He should do all this to serve H'shem, not because he hopes to be repaid by them, not to make them indebted to him, not because he loves to be honored and praised by them, not to have authority over them but to fulfill the commandment of the Creator and to keep His covenant and His ordinaces in their regard  

Rabbi  Elimelech  of Lizhensk quotes his brother Zusha’s short and profound insight on the Portion of Behar in his book  Noam Elimelech . “If you ask, ‘What will we eat in the seventh year? After all, we must not sow nor gather in our produce.’ I will then command my blessing for you in the sixth year, and the land will yield produce for the three years’ use” (Devarim 25:20-21)... Zusha tells us that the Torah is not saying “if you ask,” but rather “ when  you ask,” to teach us that when we let the thought “I won’t have enough!” enter our mind, we will cause an immediate interruption in the flow of abundance that G‑d created for us since the beginning of creation. Yes, Reb Zusha explains, G‑d creates every person with a pipeline of abundance drawing down from Heaven. This flow is continuous and uninterrupted, except in the event that the person loses trust in G‑d. At that moment, explains Zusha, G‑d has to put a backup plan in effect and make a new command for our ab...

The graves of the departed we placed near our doors so that we be disciplined by this, become aware of death, and prepare the provisions that will enable us to reach the place of rest  As for our wives and children we have set aside for them a city near here so that if one of us is in need of something that relates to them he goes to them and then returns   We have done so because we have observed the mental distraction and heavy loss and great trouble that result form their being close to us while keeping away from them brings us relief from the above an frees us to choose to occupy ourselves with the concerns of the World to Come and to reject matters of this world. The ascetic approved of what they said, blessed them and congratulated them on ther conduct 

  The ascetics would leave their relatives and homes for the mountains so as to free their minds for GD's service, and the prophets at the time of prophecy would leave their homes and seclude themselves to concentrate on their duties to the Creator.   One story is told of the ascetics who went to a certain city to teach the service of H'shem to its inhabitants   He found that their clothing and personal finery were all alike in color their graves were near the doors of their homes and he saw no women among them   They explained   Our aparl is all of one color so that the poor man be indistinguishable from the rich man so that the wealthy man not become proud and arrogant So that the poor man not be digraced in his own eyes and that our condion upon the earth be as our condion beneath it  It is told of one of the kings that he would mingle with his sevant and was indistinguishable among them because in his dress and ornaments he...

 "The Torah states," said the Baal Shem Tov, "The Divine Presence dwells with them amid their contamination when they sin.  A sinner recognizes his failing and is humbled by his imperfection. This causes GD to be with him (Tehillim 51:19). If GD is with him, I also want to be with him.   On the other hand, the Talmud (Sotah 5a) teaches that GD refuses to be with an arrogant person. I, too, concluded the Baal Shem Tov should have no place with him." The Torah Treasury, pg 297 "According to your will, you shall bring the offering,"  in other words, bring "your will" as an offering.  Offer up your will, your desires on the Altar of H'shem.   No longer shall your desires rule over your appetite for food, but rather, you will eat to be healthy and strong in order to serve Him.  MiPeninei Naom Elimelch 

 One who feels alone should also consider that he is freed from the heavy burden of supporting relatives and fulfilling obligations toward them, and regard this as one of the blessings that the Creator has bestowed upon him.  For if he is busy with secular interest and providing for his material needs, his labors are light without wife or child, and their absence means rest for him and is beneficial to him.   And if he is concerned about his latter end, his mind is undoubtedly clearer and freer when he is in the state of solitude.

 One who is a stranger "has no one, is alone" he should, whenever he feels lonely, find companionship in GD and in his condition as a stanger place his trust in Him   He should bear in mind that the soul is also a stanger in this world and the inhabitants of the earth are like srtanger on it.  He should think of how anyone who has relatives will, in a short while, be left a solitary stranger; neither relative nor child will help him, not one of them will accompany him.   

  The doctrine of the Baal  Shem  Tov is that everything encountered by a Jew should provide a lesson in his service to G‑d. Even something seen or heard previously must provide a fresh lesson, for since by Divine Providence a person has encountered it  again,  it is not a coincidence, but must provide a loftier lesson. G‑d did not create anything in His world for naught, and since G‑d has shown him something yet another time, it is for a purpose — to learn a new lesson in service to G‑d. And if a person does not utilize this opportunity, he is wreaking havoc on the concept of creation. A simple example of the above is found in a person’s daily service to G‑d: When a Jew wakes up in the morning, he must know that G‑d Himself is watching him to see how he wakes up and how he will conduct himself afterwards. Thus, when a Jew says he wants to see a miracle, we tell him: Fool! There is no greater miracle than when G‑d Himself, in all His glory, is in your room watch...

 One who trusts in H'shem will be rewarded for trusting H'shem even if his livelihood is withheld from him. As the Creator said of our forefathers in the wilderness who were in a similar situation, "The people shall go out and gather that day's portion each day"  Furthermore if his livelhood comes to him in one way and not another in one place and not another through one individual and not another he should say to himself   The One Who craeatd me in a certain form and image with a certain nature and disposition to the exclusion of the other forms nature and qualities as this is best for me   He has chosen that my livelihood come to me in the ways most suitable for me and not in other ways  The One Who brought  me into this world in a certain place and by means of two particlar individual from among all the people in the world He has determined that I earn a living in a certain land and through a certain individual whom he has made a means to my li...