H'shem behaves towards us as a father, who knows the correct way to be Michanech his child. If the father would tell the child to "grin and bear it" this would break the child and he would be unable to withstand the pressure. If the father as does H'shem tell us immediate reward and punishment for our actions while giving us understanding along the way we are able to succeed. pg437 Nefesh Hachaim H'shem is the "soul of all souls" refers to H'shem being the lifeforce that sustains all creation, that without him there would be not possible way to exist Gate three, Chapter 2 pg 108